Thursday, April 9, 2015

Small things which we can do to spread happiness all around

They might not have all the material things which you possess but they are more happy than you because they choose to be happy

             I know living in this world is getting more and more difficult. Life has become so much stressful especially in metropolitan cities. There's no other choice for you to live because of various reasons of which you must be well aware of. And there are things which most of us do to make matters worse and that is; BEING RUDE

Before I proceed I would like to share something which happened to me and I am sure you must have faced similar situations in your life ( and if you are living in Delhi, the chances are very likely):
                      Some months ago while working with my previous company I was asked to go to house of secretary of the society and ask for the permission to put up some banners of our company as part of the marketing project which was undertaken by us. So my colleague and I went to the secretary's house and rang the bell. A lady came rushing in, seemingly unhappy with the fact that we disturbed her pathetic and miserable life where she used to pretend happy and content but from inside she must be as lonely as every rich persons in this city, and irritatingly bursted out " why are you ringing my bell"? Surprised with the rudeness of her we told her that we want to meet his husband for the above mentioned reason. "He is not home"came the reply though not rudely as before but still below the parameters of politeness. Then my friend asked one question which made her loose every bit of tamper and that sensational question was "when will he return"? Shocked...???? Yeah that's exactly how we felt. She started it all again... "who are you ?? why should I tell you....... Blah blah blah !!! At last I just smiled at her  and left without saying anything.
                       What was the outcome of all that? All three of us were filled with negativity. What better could have been??

 Now the alternate scenario which would have left  all of us happy and brimming with positivity.
           I rang the bell and a lady came smiling and politely asked " Yes, how may I help you". We tell her the reason she says her husband is not at home right now but we can come later in the evening when he will be home. We smile and leave with respect filled in the heart for her for being such a polite person. This could have made the day for all of us.

                       But the latter scenario is usually rare not all extinct but rare.

The question is why do we behave in such a way and make already glum life worse. Don't we have a better option ? Yes we do have many other options. So I am going to talk about the


1. SMILE:  Yes I know you have heard it many times before and still you don't follow it. This is the most simplest and easy thing you can do to spread positivity in the air. It will cost you nothing, in fact, it will make you feel happy from inside. So promise me you will always smile when you see someone approaching you. Even if he asks for you to do something which you don't want to do you don't have to put off your smile, you just need to refuse politely.

2. BE GENTLE:  Always be gentle in your behaviour. For some people being rude is the way of life don't forget what goes around comes around. So make this world a better place to live just by being polite to everyone. Even if somebody comes at you rudely just answer politely with a smile he will obviously feel sorry for his behaviour, although he won't show it but he will feel it inside.

3. TALK TO STRANGERS: This is what I too have to work on. Believe me everyone likes to do it but they are hesitant to start first but as soon as the other person starts it, they start speaking like they have been waiting for it. You too must have observed the same. Imagine you are travelling long distance in a public transport and everybody is busy with himself/herself, no one's talking to each other. Does this look happy? This isn't giving us good feeling. Now imagine the same journey but this time everybody is talking with the persons sitting next to them, sharing thier life experiences. The latter situation is giving us positive vibes, This has been proven by some researches. It has been reported that people who strike up a conversation are more happier than those who doesn't.

4. RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS: Last week Marketing head of my company threw a party. After having our dinner at a restraunt when we were moving out of there I saw him greeting the gatekeeper which brought a wide smile on his face which looked gloomy before. This not only brought happiness to him but it sent a positivity to all of us and increased respect for our marketing head. Is it too hard to be done? Of course not. This is something everyone can do but they choose not to. Many times we see someone struggling with their baggage we can extend a helping hand. There could be many things which will bring joy to them as well as us.

5. LOVE YOURSELF: You need to love yourself in order to make yourself happy. By loving yourself doesn't mean that you need to be arrogant, by this I mean love good things about yourself and try to do them more. When you will be happy then only you can make others happy.

6. BE FORGIVING: Everyone in this world holds on to grudges which makes them unable to feel happiness. A giant leap towards happiness can be forgive all who have done bad things to you. This will free yourself of all the negativity which will make way for positivity to come in. You will now be able to feel happiness from small things.

7. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS: We all have many wants and they keep on increasing. Material things can't bring you long lasting happiness. Happiness comes from within. Feel the happiness first from all the things you already have, when you're finished with that then only make a wish for new thing. You will realize how happy you can be.

  You must have heard these advice before but still you haven't followed them. Constant reminding of these ideas can make you follow these simple things so that my wish of living in my dream world where happiness is all around can come true. Stay Happy Stay Blessed. :)

Thursday, March 12, 2015

There are reasons People from North-east are my favourite !!!

Do the beautiful people with beautiful culture deserve what's been happening to them in Metro Cities??   No ..Right?

       Some 4 years ago, while strolling down the lanes of Kotla Mubarakpur colony near south extension – 1, I used to see a lot of people (mostly young ones) from North- east. They looked content and happy in their expressions, far different from the noisy localites who always look dissatisfied and angry from their expressions. I was completely mesmerized by the way they were living happily and contently in this difficult city. Little did I know then that in the coming years they will become the victim of racial discrimination without any reason except their facial features and language. Can you believe it ?? People getting discriminated on the basis of their looks only and that also in Modern Day India. Shameful and Disgusting !!! isn’t it?

      Everybody knows, without any doubt, that these people are the most calm and peace loving people in this country as compared to other states. Delhi is infamous for its rudeness and lack of basic social etiquettes among most of its people.  So this kind of behavior is inevitable from the city residents. Targeting this peaceful community also solidifies my belief that Delhites target only those whom they are capable of targeting. If you want to have a first-hand experience of this you just have to use public transportation, whether buses or metro trains this will be evident everywhere.  What’s more shocking to me was the fact that not only Delhi but cities like Banglore have also witnessed this kind of discrimination against people from North-east. Earlier I had a good opinion about people of South- India as they seemed less violent and calm people to me. Sometimes I wonder this is due to the stressed out lifestyle or is it the people and their culture but whatever be the reason, something’s wrong with this country. What pains me most is the fact that bad things always happens to good people.

              There are many reasons which make them favorite to me among all other communities. Those reasons are solely based on my observation and personal opinion they might be true or they might not be true but I would like to share them all with you so that they get all the respect they truly deserve:

  • Their society respects women and they are not patriarchal like all other communities of our country.
  •  I read newspapers a lot and there is rarely any crime in which I see people fromNortheast are involved.
  • They are less violent than others while families from communities keep fighting with their neighbors, their colleagues or any other persons they come in contact, they seem in harmony with each other with their smiling faces.
  • I like to see people around me dressed fashionably and which other community you see more fashionable than theirs.
  • They are less disturbing than others and talk softly. On the other hand we, north Indians.. Do I need to explain more?
  • They give respect to all despite of the fact that they don’t get the same respect in return from some rude bastards. 

You may wonder,  inspite of all the above mentioned nice things still these good people are targeted. I think this has nothing to do with them, in fact, it has more to do with the frustration and depression the people are bearing here, which is more aggravated with the competition faced everywhere.  Whatever be the reason again I want to stress on one thing “good things should happen with good people”. People from there are not only beautiful from outside but they are good-hearted too. So they should feel proud of themselves. If India were full of these people this country would have been far better than it really is. On this note I hope for the best for them so that India takes one more step "Towards A Better Tomorrow".